Have you ever been surprised by where you find community? [Read more…]
**It’s time for Emily Freeman’s quarterly post on ‘What I’m Learning’ (see link here). This gives a delightful pause from the usual faith writing. Today I’m holding the magnifying glass up to a new space in my life – an emptier space – known best as empty nest or retirement. C.S. Lewis said it best….
‘Courage, dear heart’…
Learning requires great frustration. So, I guess I’m frustrated. Or learning. Or, just confused.
I’m in the midst of great life changes – spaces are opening up in my life – wide open spaces of freedom and I’m needing to learn how to give myself permission to own these new spaces. My nest has permanently emptied and I’m feeling it.
I’m also feeling some guilt for just being here.
‘I have free time‘ – I feel a need to whisper these words, they don’t go over well in our over-scheduled world. I have a newfound freedom. More space.
To be honest, part of my empty spaces come from health issues which limit my activities. I don’t think I’m alone in this – many either care for loved ones with health issues or have their own, and this greatly impacts our life spaces. It’s hard to own limitations in life. I want to ignore them, or at least hide them – I feel a great need ‘to produce‘.
I recently saw a young mother pushing her double stroller by me at the store while towing a 3rd child with a weak hand hold trying to maintain her caravan, I felt guilty. Lazy. All I can think is – ‘Who am I pulling along?’ (it sounds sillier written down).
I feel a need to give myself permission to ‘be’ in this spacious place.
It feels rather decadent, like a double-fudge brownie sundae, and I’m wondering if I really deserve it?
Life isn’t fair. Seasons roll in and out of our lives, like the waves on the beach – they don’t heed our readiness, our feelings, our ideas on the matter. They just keep rolling in.
I’ve been the overbooked mama and the working mama. I’ve lived the sleepness nights of infanthood and toddlerhood. Each season in life has its joy and struggles. I need to own my new season and fill it with as much of the good stuff in life as I can cram in it.
When you’re a young mom your shopping cart fills itself with young ones and with necessary supplies; your time is overscheduled, even sleep doesn’t always make it on the agenda. At my life stage my cart is blissfully empty and I must purpose and intent to put good things ‘in’ to my life’s basket.
Freedom is a rare gift, as well as a responsibility.
So, back to what I’m learning in my new ‘space’ in life, I need to give myself permission….
1) to be myself
One small way I do this is I give myself permission to express myself through words and writing – not because I am awesome, but because it brings me joy – it gives voice to my heart and I can do that.
2) to listen…
3) allow myself room to grow and change
Explore new interests (like Instagramming!) – and try old things, again. I need to let go of the old rules – even the things I’ve told myself – like, ‘I don’t like cleaning!’ It’s time to allow myself wiggle room – room to grow into new ways – perhaps, even cleaner ways.
4) give myself permission to take more time to do things – AKA: slow down
For instance, I’ve had to change my expectations of how I garden, because I recently made the surprising discovery that I don’t have a 20 year old body to garden with! I made this discovery after an ER visit for chest pain, which was actually neck strain from over gardening. New ways. Slower ways.
So, today, I’m giving myself a new growth grid (senior size!) and I’m giving myself permission to grow into the new spaces in my life.
**Lord, Lead me in Your wisdom to fill my life with rare and beautiful treasures. Only the good stuff. Your best for my life– to You be the glory!
Carbon footprints are a measure of the amount of environmental impact a person leaves in their wake. This summer I am aware of another kind of footprint – more of a heartprint – moments that make us, change us, somehow alter and impact the landscape of our lives.
Today, I’d like to share some footprints, or moments, from my summer – memorable, meaningful, and life-changing. Be blessed! [Read more…]
**Summer has sweet ways to refresh our souls. So, this week’s blog I’m sharing some summer thoughts from a post I wrote last August – on island life. I hope this post refreshes you and reminds you of long, hot summer days, the feel of sand between your toes and salty breezes blowing through your hair – carefree days that are less about doing and all about being. God bless your summer days, friend!
I am a newbie island girl.
For the past four years my husband and I have lived life on a long, thin island, surrounded by the Pacific Ocean, ever a ferry ride away from “the mainland”. [Read more…]
I’ve come to look forward to the monthly practice of looking back and reflecting on the stuff of life over the past month, a habit started by Emily at Chatting at the Sky site.
This month I was surprised to realize I’ve been reading. A lot! For me this is self care – reading is a real treat for me – and, apparently, I have been treating myself well amidst one of the busiest months in a decade.
I’m sharing a peek into some of my recent reads with the hope of blessing your ‘to read’ lists for the upcoming summer. [Read more…]